While you’re going through the pain of a faith transition, your spouse may not be having the same experience. Difficult conversations take place when what feels sacred to your spouse feels painful for you. If you’re in a mixed-faith marriage (that didn’t start out as mixed-faith) you may need some help figuring out how to stay connected to your spouse.
Here’s a big list of resources that might be useful for those of you trying to strengthen your marriage without relying on shared faith:
Podcasts
Mormon Stories #143-146 Raising Children in a Non-Traditional LDS Home
Mormon Stories #525 Dan Wotherspoon on Speaking with Loved Ones about Faith Differences
Mormon Stories #688 How to Communicate with Orthodox/Believing Mormons
Mormon Stories #908-910 Andrew and Allison Jolley- Healing Your Marriage After a Faith Crisis
Mormon Stories #955-958 Emily and Kyle Harris’ 14-year Mixed-Faith Journey
[You’ll find even more Mormon Stories episodes here.]
Marriage on a Tightrope A podcast about navigating a mixed-faith marriage created by two amazing people who are willing to share their journey while they’re figuring it out.
[To contact Allan or Kattie, send email to Marriageonatightrope@gmail.com]
Better than Happy #173 A Thriving Mixed-Faith Marriage with Matt and Linsay Kjar
Mormon Matters #007 Vulnerability in Mixed-Faith Marriage
Ask an Ex-Mormon Therapist 3 Secrets to Having Happy, Healthy Relationships…Even When Beliefs are Different
The Liturgists #5 Spiral Dynamics
The Liturgists #6 Lost and Found (Part 1)
The Liturgists #7 Lost and Found (Part 2)
The Liturgists #11 The Other Side of the Mattress
Short videos
Margi Dehlin – Do’s and Don’ts of “Coming Out” as a non-believing Mormon
Articles
How love and faith can grow, even when one spouse stops believing by Peggy Fletcher Stack
When your spouse loses — or finds — faith by Robert Kirby
How Secular Family Values Stand Up by Phil Zuckerman
Navigating and Strengthening a Mixed Faith Marriage from Sunstone Symposium 2018
Who Do I Choose? God Or My Husband? By Chelsea Homer
Do’s and Don’ts When Coming Out to Your Spouse as an Unorthodox or Non-Believer compiled by John Dehlin
100 phrases to say and to NOT say to your loved ones who think/believe differently from you by Dr. Julie de Azevedo Hanks
Books
When Mormons Doubt: A Way to Save Relationships and Seek a Quality Life by Jon Ogden
One Family, Two Views: How to Fortify Your Mixed-Faith Mormon Marriage by Natasha Helfer Parker
Faith Beyond Belief: Stories of Good People Who Left Their Church Behind by Margaret Placentra Johnston
In Faith and In Doubt: How Religious Believers and Nonbelievers Can Create Strong Marriages and Loving Families by Dale McGowan
Navigating a Mormon Faith Crisis: A Simple Developmental Map by Thomas McConkie
Workbook
Mixed Faith Marriage Workbook by Dr. Kristy Money
Couples Coaching
Facebook Groups
Former Mormons with Believing Spouses
From Sunstone Symposium
Navigating and Strengthening a Mixed-Faith Marriage (#376)
From Post-Mormon Mental Health
10 Tips for Building a Stable Mixed-Faith Marriage
10 Things Mormons and Ex-Mormons Should and Shouldn’t Do
