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What Does a Mormon Faith Crisis Feel Like?
As Mormons, we were taught to put those things we didn’t understand about the church “on a shelf”. Nobody prepared us for how it would really feel when it broke…
Religious Trauma: What No One Tells You at Church
Have you heard of religious trauma? It’s real and the LDS church is not immune. Discover the symptoms of religious trauma PLUS strategies for…
Mormons, you aren’t going crazy — it’s called gaslighting.
Did you laugh out loud when BYU claimed low demand as the reason it didn’t sell caffeinated beverages until 2017? We did until we noticed a pattern…
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What Mormon Youth Learn About Sex: the messages and impacts as told by those who attended “The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints” as teenagers
Adults who grew up in “The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints” voluntarily answer these questions: What messages about sexuality did you learn from church doctrine/culture and how did those messages impact you as a teen? How did those messages impact you as an adult?
General Conference Weekend: A Guide for Mixed-Faith Couples
There isn’t any “perfect” way to negotiate how your family will approach LDS General Conference. If you are still getting used to being in a mixed-faith marriage, meet yourself and your spouse with a ton of compassion. With time and practice, you can figure out a...
How Fears About “Forever Family” Creates Trauma for LDS Kids
LDS kids aren't taught that families will be together forever; they're taught families can be together forever. This actually means families might be together forever. In Mormon doctrine, eternal relationships are dependent on whether family members qualify for the...
Want Religion-Free Conversations with Your Mormon Family? Try This…
Do you want to spend time with your Mormon family without talking about Mormonism? Does it seem their lives are so absorbed by the church that they don’t know how to have non-religious conversations? It may take some work and planning, but you can invite your family...
10 Eye-Opening Books for Transitioning Mormons
Were you warned against reading "anti-Mormon literature"? Some people say they were taught to avoid "anti-Mormon" materials with the same intensity they were taught with to avoid sexual sin. That's BIG. Not long after I left the church, I told my Mormon friends that...
Want an Alternative to Evidence-Based Arguments?
There's an alternative to evidence-based arguments about the church: asking good questions. Open-ended questions get people to think. If someone you love isn't ready to listen to the "evidence" you've discovered, don't let that get in the way of having interesting...
Dear Faithful Members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints
I work closely with those who “have distanced themselves” from the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints; however, right now I’d like to take a moment to talk to the faithful members of this church. If you prefer to watch me share this on video, watch this: I...
Negative Emotions: What You Didn’t Learn at Church
So many of us make negative emotions so much more painful than they need to be. When it comes to coping with negative emotions, we have 4 options…
Interpreting Emotions: 5 Faulty Messages You Got in Primary
Directly and indirectly, LDS kids are taught a faulty system of interpreting feelings. Here are five…
Help! Do I Need a Therapist or a Life Coach?
What’s the difference between a therapist and a life coach? While there is overlap, therapists and coaches have different backgrounds and approaches. In this post, I’ll share how life coaching differs from therapy.
Are Your LDS Parents in Pain Because You Don’t Believe? Start here…
Many who experience a faith transition are concerned about the emotional pain of our parents. But it isn’t actually our parent’s pain that’s a problem for us. Our problem is…
Resources for LDS Mixed-Faith Marriages (That Didn’t Start Out That Way)
Difficult conversations take place when what feels sacred to your spouse feels painful for you. If you’re in a mixed-faith marriage…